Some day’s are all fun and games
Some day’s your scheduled to work on the weekend
but SOME days, work & fun collide.
Now if you know me at all you know I have the life approach
that only boring people get bored, there is always fun to be had,
even in the most lackluster of environments
Fortunately, Sunday night’s work environment required no extra effort to have fun,
because I was privileged to work as a server for a wedding
(I suppose I can semi-cross off “crash a wedding” off my bucket list) .
What a treat to be in such a breathtaking venue, to cry as the couples shared their vows, & to cheer + while the couple was lifted in their chairs while others danced round them hand in hand in a circle whilst singing Hava Nagila ( looks like I can also cross off “watch the traditional Hava Nagila Dance at a wedding off my bucket list **sidebar I’ve decided everyone should do this at their wedding or birthdays or any given day of the week really maybe just to amp up their office life because it looked SO FUN )!
Naturally I couldn’t help but think back to the day we got married, a significant beautiful venue, our vows, and our rendition of a circle dance where we sang about watching the waves OLHA A ONDA.
As I sit here writing and reflecting, so much of that day seems like a blur
but SO much is remembered and hasn’t gone unnoticed.
I couldn’t help but thank God for our marriage, and as I prayed I thought what can I do?
what can I convey in writing? The day we got married was so long ago does it matter?
after working at that wedding I felt so convicted to write about celebration, vows,
I’ve covered the celebration bit
Here comes the vows
I’ve typed them out so that you may read the words Greg & I shared
to each other before God & our guests.
in hopes that in some way it would encourage you
his vows to her:
Late in the evening of February 23rd 2012 you called me & forever changed my life. “So what’sup”? you eagerly asked, confused because you called me I said ” I don’t know you called me”. After a brief pause you said (somewhat awkwardly might I add) ” So uh… are you talking to anyone”? Not wanting to jump to conclusions my response was, “what do you mean”? CLICK.
My heart was racing, how did she just hang up?! I quickly redialed & the rest is history.
While our relationship has not been one of perfection, it has been one of growth; mental growth, emotional growth, & spiritual growth. Thressa, you bring out the best in me, & when I’m with you I strive to be the man God made me to be. I can’t promise that things will always be peachy; but I can promise to love you unconditionally, to forever stay by your side as we work through things, and to cherish you like the rare & beautiful flower that you are. Thressa, I also promise to do my part in keeping us rooted in God & His word. As long as we keep God at the center there will not be anything we can’t overcome; like Solomon says in Ecclesiastes 4:12, ” A person standing alone can be attacked & defeated, but 2 can stand back to back and conquer. 3 are even better, fora triple stranded cord is not easily broken. Proverbs 18:22 reads. ” The man who finds a wife finds a treasure”. Thressa, you are my treasure, you are my best friend, and now it’s truly a blessing to say; You are my wife ! I love you !
her vows to him:
I,Thressa Donnelly Da Silva choose to commit to you Robert Gregory Irving the third in this Christ centered covenant that is marriage. As your wife I vow to love you when you’re unlovely, whether that entails a warm embrace or telling you like it is. I vow to make you laugh in the face of adversity as I forever remind you how big our God is! I vow to keep you aware of the endless provision & presence of God in our life when we find ourselves in the murky waters. I vow that my words would honor you in all circumstances and to have my actions only be a reflection of how God would treat you.
I vow to keep it simple, to be a crying shoulder when everything is meant to be broken and to restore you in who God says you are. I vow to point you to the cross in the way we laugh love forgive teach adventure challenge eat heal learn speak sleep so that in everything you would see Jesus in me. I vow to be a small sanctuary of trust forgiveness and refuge. I vow to team up with you in raising our family to serve the Lord. I vow to extend an invitation for all those who walk into our lives to see a glimpse of our sweet Jesus and feel at home in our midst. And finally as the years go by despite the change & routine we may face I commit to living with the same zeal / expectation in each day of being married to you as our first date in DC. That in every moment you would know I’m your Thressa like a tree and we are ever growing in the marriage that is rooted nourished and flourished through the unconditional love of Jesus making this promise richer and deeper. Eu te amo.
They are us.
They are BIG promises that are HARD
and we fall short of them on the reg,
but we serve an even BIGGER JESUS who goes with us & makes it easy
who provides us with grace & strength everyday
to try love each other with a fraction of how He loves us
#hallelujahforforgiveness #realtalk #marriagekeepsyouhumble
another life approach I have: people love to know they matter & are appreciated
The day we got married we briefly said a generic heartfelt thanks to everyone
& got onward with the celebration,
but today we took time (12 minutes worth to be exact) to specifically
call out our appreciation for so many of you
Thus this video was created a long overdue THANKS to each of you <3
**special thanks to those who got a nice lil sun burn or a lil toasty in the sun that’s on me (half sorry bout that) I prayed for sunshine & God went above and beyond =)
SO WITHOUT FURTHER ADIEU,
HERE IS A LONG OVER DUE,
VIDEO SAYING OBRIGADO,
FROM US TO YOU <3!
Mr.Gregory & Mrs. Thressa Irving Say THANK YOU
(one more minute for pittsburgh & CCP )