It is not in the way I’ve been nurtured,
 to not celebrate another year of life. 
So without further adieu;
YOU ARE INVITED to  celebrate life with me
on November 7th!

Location : Lancaster, PA
( for specific location text email or FB message me)
( which basically means you are welcome to roll in as early as 9am )
that’s right, it’s no typo.
why celebrate for a few set hours 
when there is celebrating to be had all day
Come when you can & leave when you need !
 to everyone who reads my blogs, knows me,
 and/or anyone who is simply down for the random adventure
( because why invite a select few,
 when I can invite all the people I wish I got to spend time with face to face)
to Lancaster
 to laugh, eat, & enjoy life beside me on this day.
* any questions comment below or email me =)


It’s probably not surprising if I told you Brendan & I argued the most growing up.
It’s probably not surprising that we’re best friends now, 
or that if the opportunity arises we will continue to argue with each other.
As his big sister I will always challenge him to rise to the occasion & walk the footsteps of a stranger.
To learn things he never knew he never knew.
Because I love him, & no disagreement that was,is,or  will be, will ever change that.
Because he’s my brother we share similar family values,
such as extravagant displays of love, such as
 surprising me on my doorstep in the middle late Friday Night.
Okay I say late Friday night, it was 10:30 pm & I was already snuggled in bed with a book + tea.
I was so over that day, overwhelmed, discouraged, & well aware that a good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything.
I thought I was just due for a long sleep,
but God knows just what you need right when you need it.
I was in need of a good laugh & I had hundreds that weekend.
They showed up on my doorstep with the gift of their presence & words of affirmation, having no idea of the rough day I had. I squealed & jumped for joy. Thankful for a good good father, who knows just what I need before I say a word. Thankful for a husband who’s a planner & can’t handle surprises but knew all along that they were coming & dealt with keeping his cranky wife awake.
They didn’t want the tourist attraction let’s go here + there to do this and that 
They just wanted to spend time with us.
So of course we lathered them in our simple love,
I cooked them Italian one night & Thai the other,
we spent some time at the dog park,
we brunched where I work,
showed them our church stomping grounds,
we caught up with each others lives as Brendan blasted our record player,
 & as Lady went buck around the house because she loves having people over.
On the 440th day of being wed we celebrated God, knowing our needs
before I could even conceptualize them, & we celebrated brotherhood.
Granted I’m a sister, but it was my brother who ventured out just to say
i love you sister & brother
its your turn to get surprised
to be reminded your worth the drive any day anytime

They say when you get married whats theirs becomes yours,
 & I am so proud of the way my brother
as argumentative with me as he may be 😉
 has loved and welcomed Greg, into the brotherhood.

Bruce & Bryann step your game up 😉 Brendan surprised me, your move <3

Apple Pie Stuffed French Toast

Bagel & Lox

Big Ol’ & Meadow Medley

Lancaster loved you Brendan & Cam , come back soon.


The DaSilva in me will forever love spontaneity.
That’s why I had the idea on Wednesday October 14th
  to go visit my father & half siblings in Massachusetts to celebrate my half-sisters birthday
 on Thursday October 15th.
We surprised my half sister who loved every minute of us being there.
In fact the first night we woke up in the middle of the night to her watching us
( yes it startled Greg so he woke me up ), she was in disbelief we were actually there. 
She didn’t want to miss out a second of her time with us, because she thought we were leaving early in the morning. Then after explaining we were staying for the next 3 days,she smiled wide,& we all went  back to sleep.
I’m admired in her eyes for no reason, other then I’m her big sister & she knows that I love her.
What I especially enjoyed was seeing Greg spend time with my dad;
 laughing at his goofy sense of humor + jokes,
 listening to his unbelievable stories, 
& being impressed with my dad’s work ethic.
Greg gained a more in depth understanding of my brothers & I, as he watched my dad operate in everyday life.
Our weekend in Massachusetts was jam packed with beautiful memories;
Large blue bodies of water everywhere,
 vibrant fall colors on the tallest of trees,
cozying up around a warm crackling log fireplace,
throwing leaves at each other (& especially my dad)in Plymouth
eating delicious fresh juicy lobster & scrumptious savory creamy clam chowder,
laughing hard as the kids chased Lady around the yard,
 realizing  cupcakes+teddybears is always a good idea,
& above all a 7 hour drive is always worth it, if it means spending time with the people you love.
We celebrated day 433 of marriage, by loving others, specifically my dad & half siblings.
Which after all,is why we got married in the first place.
Of course we love one another,
 but we are married,not for each other, but for Jesus.
Because together we make a better team loving people than we did apart.
To show people his love by listening ,
 by laughing,
 & by showing up on their doorstep at 1 o’clock in the morning to say hey your worth the drive.



This Sunday I attended a Memorial Service, & this Saturday my brother saved a life.
Greg & I spent our weekend in Jersey to spend some time with family and lifelong friends.
We returned Sunday afternoon to attend a memorial service.  
The service was beautiful because this man who passed humanity shined through.
 I sobbed, as if he were my uncle, when in actuality he was my husbands coworkers husband,
 who had been struggling with an illness for the past 4 years.
But the beauty of the service wasn’t just because of the many who loved him,
or  because of the man he started out as,
the true beauty of the service came in his redemption in his restoration.
The beauty of this memorial service was seeing the man he finished as.
He was remembered for his selflessness, compassion, and kindness. 
So often we are overwhelmed by everything in life 
think about it.
How often does frustration, money, arguments, worries, regret, anger, shame, etc. take up your time?
And I know there are those of us who beat. ourselves. up. self proclaiming ourselves
 but thankfully JESUS’ thoughts & words for us
 are higher & STRONGER than our own…
 What HE says goes,
& like it or not we ARE forgiven and loved
This mans marriage to his wife encouraged me,
 because despite the few years of struggle,
 her commitment to Jesus prevailed & led to her commitment to her husband
 even in the ugliest moments, 
& likewise do we prevail in our ugliest moments 
because of Jesus’ commitment to us. 
In his final months of illness he was so passionate about the Lord & his wife,
making peace, resolution and enjoying their final days on earth together.
 He told her to not let people buy flowers for the funeral,
 but instead with whatever money people give
 to use that to swim with wild dolphins as they intended on their bucket list… 
he wouldn’t get a chance to but he still wanted her to enjoy that. 
She shared that he kissed her cross necklace,essentially
 thanking her for loving the Lord without reserve, 
which led to her loving her husband without reserve, 
which led to him recommitting to loving the Lord without reserve.
I just wanted to share this because we are all dying .
 We are simultaneously the oldest we’ve ever been and the youngest we’ll ever be,
 may we not be consumed /overwhelmed with trivial things
 but instead be consumed by our commitment to love Christ & others
without reserve
 because that changes everything.
Naturally we both left wondering how will I be remembered?
… well Greg somehow managed to convince himself, that only I would be saying sweet things about him.See what I mean? we dwell on our shortcomings & beat ourselves up
I left that memorial service inspired thinking about the way this couple’s motto if you will was
” what does love look like in this situation”
I specifically was thinking about the many ways I daily fail 
in looking like love in everyday situations with my husband.
( sorry after sorry honey, you’re the husband of the year for loving me still & forgiving me every-time )
Love looks differently in every situation, 
& I challenge you as I challenge mysel
f to take on this mentality if love is a priority in your life, to ask yourself in all situations 
Sometimes love, looks like being in the right place at the right time
Saturday afternoon we were enjoying our favorite Brazilian restaurant with family
 and got a phone call from my brother sharing how he was in the right place in the right time,
 and he won’t say it in so many words but I will, he saved a life.
He didn’t plan on it, but the situation presented itself and he saved a life.
My brother looked like love this Saturday afternoon.
He’s always been a hero to me, & he’ll say he was just doing what anyone would do, 
but he CHOSE to look like love in that situation, which resulted in a life being saved.
May we look like love even when it hurts, even when its hard, 
even when it’s just the humane thing to do.
I didn’t know how to write regarding this past weekend,
 & specifically these two situations; that were filled with pain, sorrow, and hope,
But its often the things I don’t understand why they wont get out of my head,
 that I know are the things that need shared & need said.
Maybe it’s what love looks like in this situation.
It’s needed more than you know, 
As I was reminded this weekend, love looks differently in every situation.
It may come second nature to us in some situations,
or may take us seriously swallowing our pride, or ego or lazyness or shyness in others.
May we love without reserve
May we be in the right place at the right time
May we look like love in every situation, because realistically we don’t have time for anything else.
I mean it.
someone’s life may be depending on it.