Greg is downstairs doing the dishes as he listens to Thriller.
Moments like those have become the norm 
and I find myself so grateful for the way our relationship has grown him.
He does the dishes in record time & jams to Michael Jackson like nobody’s watching.
I’m bundled up in blankets in our bedroom
 because our neighbors BLAST the heat, 
so Greg & I have some silly satisfaction
 in experiencing the winter without having to turn our heat on.
The dishes being done, 
the singing to Michael Jackson,
 the engaging in outlandish escapades with me (such as the seeing how long we can go without having to turn on the heat)  just because fill my heart with hope & laughter.
But what makes me really proud to be Greg’s wife 
are the moments where his worldview is expanded 
…and as much of a creature of habit as he may be,
his arms are open & receptive to walking the footsteps of a stranger
and learning things firsthand he never knew he never knew,
and what’s left is a creature of habit who embraces change.
Recently we spent 11 days visiting my mothers( & fathers) land of Brazil 
and after hearing stories after stories 
he was finally able to put faces & places to names.
Where my parents grew up, their siblings, 
where my dad slipped and accidentally scored the winning goal for his soccer team, the forro 
the food, the glee, the warmer than the south american sun hospitality,
 & zeal for life that Brazilian people thrive upon,
Greg absorbed it all & was INSPIRED by it.
He asked if we could be more Brazilian in our everyday life ( aside from the whole being late thing ) 
which shoot he certainly doesn’t have to ask me twice.
He experienced all these things among so much more while meeting my relatives in Brazil,
had so much compassion and understanding, 
as his eyes were open to so many things.
He laughed those deep hearty Greg laughs that I love so much
and his respect for my parents which he already had magnified significantly.
There is something incredibly sexy about seeing the man you love DIVE head first 
into learning your first language & loving the people and culture that made you, you.
I am proud to have gone to Brazil on our 481st day of marriage, to expose Greg
to an imperfect people who know what it is to live simply yet insist on giving hard, 
who forgive hard because they know life is hard & we’re all only human
and love hard… even though love is the hardest of them all,
Proud to be a part of a lineage of giving, forgiving, CRAZY, loving Brazilians,
& proud to be married to a man who shares love for this treasured culture of mine.

1 year ago today

A year ago today
I ventured out and started this blog
originally Mr.Realist &Mrs.Dreamer
then rebranded to Irving’s Count Up

It’s been wonderful & life giving
In intentionally taking time to reflect and give thanks my quality of life has been enhanced
I’ve been able to see God at work in my life, friendships, and marriage
piecing everything together,
reminding me the most important aims of this life
and that I am not at it alone.

It’s been refreshing and rewarding
& each time I write my prayer is;
 that one person may breath a little easier
or learn something sooner
or be encouraged in one way or another.

That is why I’ve been writing and continue writing this past year
how marriage like all moments of life are all about the count up & telling the truth of the gospel
& if you’ve been following along I hope any of these words I’ve compiled together
have spoken to the depths of your soul

and in celebration of 1 year of blogging
I am asking for feedback.
PLEASE feel free to
intentionally reflect on any previous post of mine you’ve read 
and tell me how ( if it all) its impacted you this year.

( if its something you’d rather not others read email me directly at thressa.irving@gmail.com )

and journeying along as we count up…

let the feedback begin <3