Greg is downstairs doing the dishes as he listens to Thriller.
Moments like those have become the norm
and I find myself so grateful for the way our relationship has grown him.
He does the dishes in record time & jams to Michael Jackson like nobody’s watching.
I’m bundled up in blankets in our bedroom
because our neighbors BLAST the heat,
so Greg & I have some silly satisfaction
in experiencing the winter without having to turn our heat on.
The dishes being done,
the singing to Michael Jackson,
the engaging in outlandish escapades with me (such as the seeing how long we can go without having to turn on the heat) just because fill my heart with hope & laughter.
But what makes me really proud to be Greg’s wife
are the moments where his worldview is expanded
…and as much of a creature of habit as he may be,
his arms are open & receptive to walking the footsteps of a stranger
and learning things firsthand he never knew he never knew,
and what’s left is a creature of habit who embraces change.
Recently we spent 11 days visiting my mothers( & fathers) land of Brazil
and after hearing stories after stories
he was finally able to put faces & places to names.
Where my parents grew up, their siblings,
where my dad slipped and accidentally scored the winning goal for his soccer team, the forro
the food, the glee, the warmer than the south american sun hospitality,
& zeal for life that Brazilian people thrive upon,
Greg absorbed it all & was INSPIRED by it.
He asked if we could be more Brazilian in our everyday life ( aside from the whole being late thing )
which shoot he certainly doesn’t have to ask me twice.
He experienced all these things among so much more while meeting my relatives in Brazil,
had so much compassion and understanding,
as his eyes were open to so many things.
He laughed those deep hearty Greg laughs that I love so much
and his respect for my parents which he already had magnified significantly.
There is something incredibly sexy about seeing the man you love DIVE head first
into learning your first language & loving the people and culture that made you, you.
I am proud to have gone to Brazil on our 481st day of marriage, to expose Greg
to an imperfect people who know what it is to live simply yet insist on giving hard,
who forgive hard because they know life is hard & we’re all only human
and love hard… even though love is the hardest of them all,
Proud to be a part of a lineage of giving, forgiving, CRAZY, loving Brazilians,
& proud to be married to a man who shares love for this treasured culture of mine.